One of the first questions I always receive when someone contacts me for help with a “situation” is, “What’s next?” which is then followed by, “It’s all over, right?”
My answer is, inevitably, “No, it’s ‘not over’ and what follows next depends upon the afflicted client.”
Technically I never call a client “afflicted” because there are negative connotations to that word, but really their condition varies between conflicted and afflicted. When you are afflicted, something is causing you pain, distress, suffering, etc. The conflicted part comes in when the ego starts to fight with the experiences just completed and whispers that it really was “not that bad” and “we can return to the life we were living”.
This is not true, especially for the one who I just rescued from an imminent demon incursion. That person is still breathing shallowly and trying to figure out what the heck happened to them and why. Which is all good – these are the right questions for this person to ask.
99% of the time the people asking the questions we started this article with are the ones who want to pretend they were never inconvenienced by the situation plus they want to deny that the afflicted is a person who needs help and/or assistance but is being denied that by those around him or her.
Our world is filled with fearful, selfish people who want to stay locked up in their bubble of coping and so they want you to stay locked up in your bubble of coping. When you go outside of your bubble of coping – a la demon infestation explosion – all they want is for everything to go back to the same old, same old.
When I point out that the reason this started is because of an emotional wound that never healed properly they are quick to jump on the bandwagon that the person is “over sensitive”, a “drama king/queen”, is always making waves, does not know a good thing when they see it, etc. etc. etc.
Stop. Stop already, please. This is not about you making the person feel even worse about their life now that you have the amunition from this situation to add onto your nuclear bomb you regularly drop onto them.
This is about you, walking away. Stopping everything and just walking away. Because that is what they need if you cannot see that their world has just been impacted more than your life ever has and likely ever will because you are already emotionally dead. Which also translates into the knowledge that YOU helped create the situation and you are trying your damndest to avoid taking your fair share of the responsibility.
So – for the record. No, life will never be the same – but it can be BETTER if the person is willing to gather some courage and do what is needed to do. It can be BETTER if you just get off that person’s case about everything. Hold them to standards a reasonable adult should be held to, but be compassionate because that person just survived a war zone and they feel like crap – physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
This was an experience for you both, for all of you. This is a magical world we live in with amazing properties that are completely downgraded and sometimes hidden by the human powers that be. Stop trying to crawl back into your little bubble of nothing and realize that this is an opportunity for you to take a moment and see what this means for you.
The only people who do not benefit from situations like this are people who have an agenda to stay in their bubble. Fear, ego, etc. all play into this agenda. But the curious and courageous few who look outside now that the bubble popped can find out what they are really and why they live the way they do.
I love my Work. It freaks people out, but I find that this line of Service to the Creator is the most fulfilling. This is truly bringing the Fallen back to the Light – both in people and in Dark beings. What is there to not love about that?
We all need a little help in the end.
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